Should I Remove the Hijab Because I Am a Bad Example for Others?

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Answered by Ustadha Sulma Badrudduja

Question: Even though I wear the hijab, I dont feel like I am a good representative of Islam. Should I just remove it?

Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,

I hope this answer reaches you in ever-increasing levels of faith.

Wearing the hijab, like any other act of worship, is done for the sake of Allah alone. Your intention should be to fulfill a command of God. All acts of obedience are tremendous, and one should never underestimate any act, even if small, for each one brings God’s mercy and reward. Allah Most High says in the Qur’an: “And whosoever does an atom’s weight of good shall see it” [99:01].

Though we pray that Allah makes us good examples for others, this is neither our goal nor the basis of what we are held accountable for. Rather, we are held accountable for the obligations due upon us towards our Lord and His creation. You should always keep doing what you can of the practices that you currently do, and then work gradually to increase it. How will you be able to increase if you consider leaving the things that you are doing now?

Do not let your feelings about your shortcomings preoccupy you. You should only concern yourself with them long enough to repent and renew your intention to strive for doing better. Allah is Ever-Merciful and All-Forgiving; it is not permissible to despair of His mercy or His forgiveness. It is a great blessing that you have been given the strength to wear the hijab! It’s not something easy. I’m sure that this is a sign of your being able to achieve more of the things you want to in terms of your practice. Continue making sincere du`a to Allah and remain in good and uplifting company.

Allah says, “With hardship comes ease. Certainly, with hardship comes ease” [94:4-5].

wassalam,
Sulma

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

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Disney Hijab Controversy: Muslim Hostess Calls Disney’s Replacement Hijab “Offensive”

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/08/23/disney-hijab-controversy-_n_691368.html

ANAHEIM — A Muslim woman who is fighting for the right to wear her hijab to work says Disney’s replacement headress is “offensive.”

Imane Boudlal, 26, who is a hostess at the Storyteller’s Restaurant in Disneyland’s Grand Californian Hotel, says she is not allowed to wear the head scarf while at work and has been sent home seven times times — without pay.

Disneyland spokeswoman Suzi Brown said Disney has a policy not to discriminate and is trying to work out a compromise.

Disney has offered Boudlal a hat to wear on top of a bonnet in place of her own white headscarf but Boudlal says the new uniform does not meet her religious needs and says the hat is embarrassing, especially because she would be the only employee forced to wear it.

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Muslim Disneyland Employee: Park Banned My Head Scarf

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/08/19/muslim-disneyland-employe_n_687435.html

ANAHEIM, Calif. — A Muslim woman who works as a hostess at a Disneyland restaurant alleged Wednesday the theme park would not allow her to appear in front of customers while wearing her head scarf.

Imane Boudlal, 26, appeared outside the resort’s Grand Californian Hotel after filing a complaint with the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

She said when she wore the hijab to work Sunday, her supervisors told her to remove it, work where customers couldn’t see her, or go home.

Boudlal, who wore the scarf in observance of Ramadan, chose to go home but reported to work for the next two days and was told the same thing.

“Miss Boudlal has effectively understood that they’re not interested in accommodating her request either in timing or good faith,” said Ameena Qazi, an attorney from the Council on American-Islamic Relations who is consulting with Boudlal.

Disneyland spokeswoman Suzi Brown said Disney has a policy not to discriminate. The resort offered Boudlal a chance to work with the head covering away from customers while Disneyland tries to find a compromise that would allow Boudlal to cover her head in a way that fits with her hostess uniform, Brown said.

“Typically, somebody in an on-stage position like hers wouldn’t wear something like that, that’s not part of the costume,” Brown said. “We were trying to accommodate her with a backstage position that would allow her to work. We gave her a couple of different options and she chose not to take those and to go home.”

Imane Boudlal, A Muslim woman who works as a hostess at a Disneyland restaurant, alleged Wednesday the theme park would not allow her to appear in front of customers while wearing her head scarf.

Boudlal, who is a native of Morocco, has worked at the Storyteller restaurant at the hotel for 2 1/2 years but only realized she could wear her hijab to work after studying for her U.S. citizenship exam in June, Qazi said.

She asked her supervisors if she could wear the scarf and was told they would consult with the corporate office, Qazi said. Boudlal didn’t hear anything for two months and was then told she could wear a head scarf, but it had to be designed by Disneyland’s costume department to comply with the Disney look, Qazi said.

She was fitted for a Disney-supplied head scarf but was not given a date when the garment would be finished and was told she couldn’t wear her own hijab in the interim.

Boudlal wore her own hijab to work for the first time Sunday.

“After these two months and this complicated process, she decided to come forward,” Qazi said. “She really wanted to be able to wear it on Ramadan.”

Boudlal has the support of her union, which has been in a bitter fight for months with Disneyland over an expired contract for hotel workers. Brown accused the union of distorting the facts in Boudlal’s case to distract from the key issues in the contract fight.

Leigh Shelton, a spokeswoman for the union, said Boudlal’s coming forward now had nothing to do with the negotiations.

“There’s absolutely no correlation,” said Shelton, who’s with Unite Here Local 11.

Ramadan Advice: Readying the Ruh for Ramadan by Hina Khan-Mukhtar

Ramadan is vitally important in raising spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy children, and thus it is a critical aspect of holistic education. The following article is one of two that have been written by Hina Khan-Mukhtar that are well worth reading.

READYING THE RUH FOR RAMADAN

by Hina Khan-Mukhtar

The Ramadan moon is only a few nights away from being sighted, insha’Allah, and I am in the midst of last-minute preparations. The bulk of my worldly to-do list has been completed and I am finally beginning to feel at ease.

The children were fascinated this past month to see all of the tasks that were being undertaken in the name of “preparing for Ramadan”. I finally got around to calling my trusted carpet cleaning company so that they could take care of the stains that have accumulated over the past year. A window washing company sent out four employees to come scrub the windows inside and out, upstairs and down, so that the sunlight could sparkle through grime-free glass. My husband and I spent an afternoon, paintbrushes and touch-up paint in hand, inspecting the walls and floorboards for scuff marks and scratches that magically disappeared with a flick of the wrist.

The boys gave up a few hours of their carefree summer days to assist me in organizing closets and cupboards and cabinets. The hearts felt lighter as bags of clutter were taken out to the garage and bins for donations were set up. I am pleased to see that the flowers we planted a few weeks ago are now in full bloom outside my family room window. We are currently preparing to deliver cookies to neighbors and friends. Our next step is to assemble the family’s favorite egg rolls for the freezer in anticipation of upcoming iftars.

When the days of fasting begin, house and garden will no longer be my focus, insha’Allah. Aside from the necessary meals, the kitchen will take a back seat on my list of priorities. I hope to immerse myself in prayer and remembrance. I don’t want anything to distract me from the loftiness of the upcoming month, however, so I am trying to “set myself up for success” now. A scholar once advised that we should treat Ramadan like an “honored guest” and prepare for its arrival with proper planning so that we can benefit from its blessed presence once it is with us.

It is my sincere wish that when my children grow up to one day run their own households, insha’Allah, they will see Ramadan as a time not only for cleansing the body, the soul, and the mind…but for cleansing the long-forgotten recesses of the home as well. With the world around us in tidy order, the spirit feels better prepared to turn in complete focus on the worship of our Lord. May He grant us all success in our endeavors to please Him and allow us to live simple, clean lives that free up our time to do what is most important — remember Him. Aameen.

COPYRIGHT HINA KHAN-MUKHTAR 2010. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.

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